Stay quiet during your divorceMany divorce cases are either ruined or complicated because the parties involved simply talk too much.  If you are in the middle of a divorce, my biggest piece of advice to you is to keep your mouth closed.  Rumors have a way of coming around to haunt you, and what may have seemed like a funny joke will sound a lot less humorous when told to the judge.

What you should do:

  • Clean up Social media pages.
  • Take your personal pictures off the internet.  Ask your friends to remove the pictures of you with the beer bottle in your mouth.
  • Use email carefully, you never know who will read it.  Emails and letters can be admissible in a divorce trial.
  • Confide in counselors or your attorney, as they have a duty to keep your communications private.
  • If you feel like you can’t keep your mouth closed, or you might do something that will affect your case, ask your attorney about it first.

What you should not do:

  • Do not make disparaging or insulting remarks about your spouse.  If in doubt, keep your mouth closed!
  • Don’t mention your divorce on your social media pages.  Find another way to vent your frustrations.
  • No dating, no going out with people of opposite sex, not even just “as friends”.
  • Don’t fight or argue in front of the children.
  • Do not make profiles on dating web sites.  You’re not single yet!
  • An occasional night out is fine, you’re not dead, but do not make a habit of hanging out in bars or nightclubs.
  • Do not try to hide income or assets.
  • Do not sell or give away marital assets.

Talk to your attorney

This is just a partial list, your attorney will have more specific instructions for you.  It’s important for you to remember that the legal system moves very slowly, but anger moves very quickly.

If you find your foot in your mouth a lot, you should seek the help of an attorney before you cause yourself a lot of trouble in your divorce.  Contact me to find out how I can help you.